Saturday, May 26, 2012

Goodbyes Are Hard in Any Language


It feels as if I had just arrived here, sweating from the summer sun and wandering around Stellensbosch overwhelmed and almost getting hit by speeding vehicles (ok so the last part still applies…I swear cars speed up when they see you start to cross the street!). But the weather has definitely changed –instead of tank tops and shorts, you can find me curled up with an extra blanket and a cup of hot chocolate (in May?!).

As cliché as it sounds, the weather isn’t the only thing that has changed. At the end of three challenging and inspiring months at Lynedoch, I’ve definitely come to recognize a personal shift. Strangely enough I’m even more confused –but I feel at least that I am closer to finding the right track. I’ve I were to classify this semester, I would describe it as a “process.” I struggled with challenges in community development work and while LSCE has ended, I haven’t finished working out all the solutions –and I probably won’t for a while yet. It is frustrating to “let it go” and “work itself out” –these things are a bit counter-intuitive for a goal-oriented person like myself. It’s frustrating when there aren’t deadlines for moments of revelation; instead, these ‘ah-ha!’ moments surprise us with their timing. So, as much as I would like for my reflections and lessons I’ve learned this semester to be wrapped up in a tidy conclusion before I leave, I must appreciate the fact that won’t –and can’t –happen because the learning continues on.

In our final class at Lynedoch we talked about “life after LSCE.” For me this means a variety of things. Over the next two weeks I will be traveling throughout Southern Africa with wonderful people I had the fortunate opportunity of meeting through LSCE (hint: get excited for some awesome pics and one or two posts upon my return!). I look forward to soaking up every possible moment of discovery and have resolved to go home with this same attitude of wonder and gratitude for the small things that happen every day. Although LSCE taught me how to work in a classroom and with a team, it has been especially meaningful to me as an exercise in building relationships. Being in a new environment, I have been removed from my usual responsibilities and habits at home and have been able to practice spending more time engaging with and learning from others. After reflecting on my many changed perspectives from the beginning of the semester, I resolve to practice being more people-oriented rather than strictly goal driven.

We also talked about future careers (talk about a full day’s discussion!). Initially, I came here hoping that at the end of the semester, I would have had worked out a plan. But like community work, I’m realizing that results aren’t always immediate and instead it’s another layer of experience to add to my overall learning. At this point, I’m not sure what my career path will be, but I do know that I will experience more fullness and joy when working directly with people. Thinking about life after LSCE, I am not worried about deciding on a particular career path but instead recognizing that for me it is about the particular spirit that I choose to adopt and apply to whatever work I choose.
One of my biggest priorities after leaving Lynedoch is to find some way to express the learning that I experienced to others –both through challenges and accomplishments. This has undoubtedly been a time of personal growth and I also want to share with others the same inspiration that has come to motivate me these past few months. However, I’m a bit nervous I won’t be able to express myself the way I want or in order to do this semester justice –how can you possible sum up a 5 month experience? 

I have busy plans for the upcoming summer months –spending time with family and reconnecting with friends (not to mention refueling my dwindling bank account!) but at the same time I look forward to the quiet moments when I can sit alone and relive some of my favorite experiences.

I’ve had to start saying my goodbyes to the people and places that I’ve come to know, love, and rely on this semester. As I went to Hestea (with tears in my eyes), she looked at me and said, “I wouldn’t worry. I know you’ll be back.” It’s as simple as that. I’ll be back.

She also gave me a quote by Eckhart Tolle that I will leave with you: “Time isn’t precious at all, because it is an illusion. What you perceive as precious is not time but the one point that is out of time: the Now. That is precious indeed. The more you are focused on time—past and future—the more you miss the Now, the most precious thing there is.”

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